In Alone and Rising, I explore how early experiences become woven together with our biology, neurology, and cultural conditioning to create patterns that silently govern adult decision-making.

These patterns are not flaws or weaknesses; they were originally protective strategies that the subconscious mind created, believing that they would help the person avoid hurt or loss in early life. However, when left unchecked, they can keep us settling for lives that no longer fit.

This book is about understanding those patterns and shifting them. It shows how becoming internally anchored and developing a strong sense of self-worth allows you to be genuinely okay alone, and how that one shift changes everything. As you change, your choices become clearer, your boundaries tighten, and you stop negotiating on what is important to you. You learn that if you do need to be alone for a while, you’ll be okay, and maybe more than ok, you might find you love being alone - I did. 

I wrote Alone and Rising after reaching my own limit. After years of repeating the same relationship patterns and searching for explanations as to why I couldn’t change them, I realised that what was holding me back was not a lack of strength or willpower, but a deeply wired fear of being alone. Doing the work to resolve that fear transformed my life.

It took me decades to understand the reasons why I was stuck and find a solution. This came through understanding neuroscience, the behaviour patterns of how the mind works, my own experience in therapy, and through years of professional practice guiding clients through the same shift. This book distils that learning so readers don’t have to spend decades trying to understand why they keep settling - or how to stop. I’ve watched clients step out of stuck relationships, reshape careers, improve their parenting, and begin making decisions from a strong internal position - grounded in self-trust and a deep sense of knowing what is right for them. 

Blending neuroscience, psychology, therapeutic insight, and personal lived experience, with humour and storytelling, this book enables the reader to engage at depth without shame and fear of judgement. It’s informative, reflective, practical, but always warm and human.  

Alone and Rising is about developing the internal safety that makes you secure in yourself, whatever life brings. When fear of being alone no longer governs your decisions, you choose relationships, work, and a way of living that fits you, not to avoid being alone, but because you trust yourself enough to know you would be okay if you were. From that place, you stop settling, and you start living.